Tuesday, January 22, 2008
LiFE & eXpeCtAtiOn
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my previous blog on life as what you want, drew some criticism, many telling me that my blog is a bit chim, really?
ok, i'm talking abt life & expectation, simple enough?
lately i think a lot - about human in nature & the way they behave
i do have some good conversation with my dad, ah lim & some senior staff at my workplace.. all can summarize into 1 short sentence, about expectation & how u live yr life gracefully :
** close 1 eye, don't expect returns - you'll be much happier & peaceful **
else, you'll suffer & no-one will pity you.
that's life, harsh?
is this call ungrateful?
i'm wondering, is this happen to chinese only?
some say money is the root of all problems : to a certain point, it is correct.
chinese can go thru hardship together, but why can't they go thru prosperity together?
ungratefulness - definition?
maybe during my time, i brought up in an obedient way BUT not the youngster now
as my trainer told me : dun expect anything even from yr own childrens
what they gave you, treat it as a bonus...
but i still dun understand, still can't accept the fact how it turn out this way
i saw many of them, hear much of it...
- sibling rivalry
- parents put too much hope on their childrens
- parents expectation, etc...
it happens even to myself, same thing also
i'm the eldest, so i should bear all the responsibility, this is what my parents expectation from me
i should take care of my younger brother n sister, etc...
i should give them more
hmmph.. i wonder, do i eat more?
as my buddy told me, i take good care of my siblings.. if something happen to me, who take care of me?
do i expect the same treatment from my brother n sisters?
i guess the answer is : a NOPE
my sis & brother, haiz... sometimes, u'll feel really down & disappointed too
take gd care of them, get a place & work for them, take gd care of them, give them some allowance when they earn not much, etc...
what u expect in return?
just being grateful, sufficient enough...
but nope, nothing from them.. not even a thank you
initially, i treat them equally.. treat them like my buddies instead of drawing a clear line, elder brother versus younger sis/bro
what i need is mutual respect between us, but it didn't work
they take u for granted..
my bro - like the whole family own him a living
treat my parents like an ATM machine
when he can earn a living, does he ever think of us?
who supporting him thru think n thin all the years?
last month, i got a msn chat with my old friend in aussie
she's really doing big with his boyfriend (so call an angmoh ah mouse), doing properties
work damn hard, going into building passive income
she told me she got a chat with my sis lately, a short while
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dion : yo.. how's life, good?
me : ok lar, still surviving, yr property how?
dion : doing good but i tell u, really hard work
me : har.. also super hard work, life in aussie?
dion : that mouse v lazy. can u imagine i drive 7 hours to one of my house & drive back 7 hours too to my own house for a week?
dion : 1 worker & myself doing all the renovation, painting, etc...
me : huh.. indeed hard work, i'm just stuck lately due to office projects on m'sia, phil & indo
me : so mostly stuck there, cracking my head
dion : u should do more hardwork for yrself, not office. u won't know when yr company stop loving you, and you're just suddenly kena kick out
me : so u're now building passive income intensively?
dion : yep, imagine just rental alone, we receive ard A$200k? my tax is ard A$70k, i already give aussie govn a bmw
me : wow, so many?
dion : but super heavy commitment, work like no tomorz in-order to build a retirement nest
dion : i chat with yr sis just now
me : about?
dion : argh.. a bit different, she kinda change now, showing off?
dion : telling me she work in a mnc as a senior accountant, bla bla bla..
me : oh.. aiyaa, youngster, of course have some attitude when they can earn
dion : yep but no matter how big u're in other ppl's company, u're nothing when u're out
me : of course i agree
dion : so listen to me, don't work hard for others, work smart for yrself
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i do agree with my friend
i'd tell my mum always :
whether u're loaded or not, try to live humbly & live within yr means... i never ever calculative on money issues, so u guys better don't try to be funny & calculate with me
basically v simple, u know how to be calculative, i not stupid, i also know how to calculate, right?
so be a bit generous
u treat ppl good, do expect some returns too
tt's y i always tell ppl :
u can see 2 very different characters in 1 human being
1 is when he/she is poor while the other one, is when he/she is riched
surprisingly quite a 360 degree turn, scary?
my sis, sama-sama... so disappointed
so being ungrateful..
maybe this is human nature, i should follow the 高人's advice...
sMurFy at ... [ 11:31 AM ]
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