Friday, July 28, 2006

dEfiNiTioN of ~~lOvE~~

what is love?
concept of love - very subjective n debatable.
some deny the existence of love, calling it a recently invented abstraction.
others maintain that love exists but is indefinable...

Love is a condition or phenomenon of emotional primacy, or absolute value. Love can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state.
In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love, an experience usually felt by a person for another person. Love is commonly considered impossible to define.

i'm watching a HK series lately whereby a young gal ask her uncle, who's still single & paying respect to a women.

gg : uncle, who is this women?
JJ : she's someone's wife
gg : so is she yr childhood friend?
JJ : nope, she's once my lover, the only women in my life, in my heart forever
gg : oh.. then how come, u treat her badly or u do something bad towards her?
JJ : yes, i feel sorry and let her down badly
JJ : she's my girlfriend and we love each other. during my gangster time, i've done something wrong and i need to run away, into hiding
JJ : i dun want her to follow me to go thru the hard life and being hunted everywhere but she insists that she'll wait for me
JJ : i didn't bear to hurt her anymore and she'll be much better if she can forget me and get a more worthwhile man than me
JJ : hence, i purposely get a women and let her know that i actually like another women. she feel so hurt and cry her heart out.
JJ : few yrs later when i'm back from hiding, i saw her marrying into a good family and her husband treats her well, i feel so happy for her
gg : i'm so touched, uncle.. u're really a good man
JJ : i know i'm not worth to be with her, why shall i let the women i love go thru the hardship with me?

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true love is about giving without expecting returns
is it true?
probably..

because u know that when she's happy, u're happy
because u know that when she's sad, u'll sad
because u know that when she's crying, u do hope that u'll be there for her
because u know that when she's boring and feel empty, u'll fill her life with laughter and joy
because u know that when she's disappointed, u'll do yr best to support her
because u know that when she need something, u do yr best to provide
.
.
and much more..
.
.
lately my bud run into problems.
he gotta know a gal
he love her truly
he knows that this gal will be his life partner
he shows her his undying love
he shows her his everything

but the gal still reluctant
somehow she consider a lot, about her current relationship, her current status with her boyfriend, her bf's good and bad, her future, etc...

she told my bud that he treat every gals the same
she didn't feel special
she didn't feel the importance of her being in his heart
she didn't feel the love
she say all the man are the same
why should start a new r/s and go thru all the hardship again n again?
what if she left her current bf and found out that my bud is actually didn't suit her?
huh...

but my bud didn't give-up, ever
single and available, u have the right to choose
to choose someone who's best suit to each other
not to live with someone that you know u keep telling yrself that he actually have good points, keep justifying to herself that he actually treats her well

it is like building a house theory
u need time, effort and money
u build halfway and it didn't plan as accordingly as what you want
everything is different, everything is not as u wish
but u force yrself into believing that the house is actually quite okay
the house is live-able
i'll continue to build the house because it is so tedious and time consuming to destroy the old house and rebuild again
so i'll rather stay at this house
i scare if i rebuild again, still can't get the house i want

my bud very sad upon hearing this
but he didn't give up
he knows her phobia, understand her concerns, understand her pains
he'll build the house with her if given the chance, together
build the house together is much better than let her build the house alone
helping and supporting her all the way
to build a house that both of them can live happily
it is tough but why not?
why not give a chance to my bud?
to let him have a chance, to build the house together... cos building a house together is much easier than just build a house by herself
those labor of love feeling, is just undescribe-able

and my bud told me, probably she didn't feel comfortable with his many friends around him
especially gals

but my bud told me :
i know who are friends and who will be my life partner
i might not give her enough security but i made known to her that i only love her
i truly love her, only think of her and miss her a lot
sometimes word alone can't describe how much i love her.. but my love towards her is true, my undying love towards her are sincere
not those puppy love or those short-term fatal attraction that goes after weeks or days
i truly hope she can feel it

i miss her, miss her badly
but does she knows?
if she knows, does she care?

sMurFy at ... [ 12:14 AM ]

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================================================================ Thursday, July 27, 2006

~~~ life ~~~

Stop analyzing life.
Just live it.
Analysis is what makes it complicated.

Uncertainty is inevitable, but worrying is optional.
Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.
Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.

Success is a measure as decided by others.
Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.
Knowing the road ahead is more satisfying than knowing you rode ahead.

You work with the compass.
Let others work with the clock.

Seek not to find who you are, but to determine who you want to be.
Stop looking for a purpose as to why you are here. Create it.
Life is not a process of discovery but a process of creation.

Face your past without regret.
Handle your present with confidence.
Prepare for the future without fear.

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================================================================ Tuesday, July 25, 2006

stomach upset

lately dunno what happen, stomach very weak... and always get stomach upset, especially having spicy food (not so spicy though)
each time wanna gain some weight, damn... stomach upset again, how am i gonna gain weight like that?
guess i shall really put in effort to do some exercise over the weekday and build up my stamina and health, time to draft an immediate resolution on this.

fortunately i get breakkie from ally lately, haha... she also wanna on-diet as promise but yet getting any result despite having this expensive breakfast.

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================================================================ Sunday, July 23, 2006

IQ & EQ @ wOrK

lately i attend some management courses, project and people management.
any differences between a manager and a supervisor?
as claims, manager need IQ while a supervisor need EQ.. and a good manager need both. but how many had it both?

i'm a bit demoralized & disappointed lately, the working environment at my workplace is not healthy. haha.. maybe i should listen to one of the lady manager and revamp my seat, she ask me to do some changes related to 'feng-shui', hmmph!
a lot of colleagues are leaving in these few month period, hard to accept... in summary, those hard working and capable, leaving.. left those who're good in ... and ... (i also ashamed to tell).

i still hold down to a very basic principle - work hard, play hard.
specialization, different area and niche talent.. but at the end of the day, we're still working in a same company, achieving the same target/objective, am i right?
here.. i didn't see it.
i saw many 'tai-chi' master, monkeys, hitler, messenger, clown, etc... so disappointed.

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oh.. some of the photo taken while munching dinner after movie at MOS burger and lunch at Holland Village

then somehow that whole bunch of my colleagues say the gal next to us look like ah si, and promptly call her ah-si imatation but still think that ah si is much prettier than the imation ah si.

ah si, here's the mos burger.. since u can't eat it there, i help you eat lar

this time i try the new burger instead of my favorite kakiage burger
still not bad, the oyako burger still can make the cut...

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================================================================ Sunday, July 16, 2006

eMplOyER vs eMplOyEE

david beckham = manchaster united
van nisteerooy = manchaster united
ashley cole = arsenal (latest)

tHe sTory:
ashley cole was punished by PL for illegal meeting with another club (chelsea) last season he now revealed his anger at how the club handled the fall out surrounding his chelsea meeting.
"Arsenal hung me out to dry, using me as a scapegoat to get back at Chelsea," he is quoted in The Sun as saying.
"The board 'rewarded' me with an insult and threw years of loyalty back in my face.
"I'll reveal the shattering truth about who fed me to the sharks. It changed my view forever on the club I regarded as family."

isn't it the same for david beckham & nisteerooy from ManUnited? one is his childhood dream club, another one serve loyally for the club.. but once u fall out with yr superior/manager, u're just worth nothing more than an item for sale

similarity?
yep, it does.. and also serve as a reminder to everyone on how our employer treat us.
fact is fact... reality is reality
yes, u pledge loyalty to yr company, work for yr life, your youth and give all to them.. but once u make a mistake, make redundant or a fall-out with yr boss, same story as above...

what is loyalty now?
who will help you?

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================================================================ Friday, July 14, 2006

1st sex...

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================================================================ Sunday, July 09, 2006

fern-lui resignation

one of my team member tender her resignation, and getting a guy for replacement
overall she's an intelligent n smart gal but management view her as not mature enough...
i do agree to a certain extend especially on how she handle ... and ... but as i and her previous superior agree, she still young and immature, need time, need time

i guess she know well the working culture in this current company, once u make a mistake.. that's it, cruel u may say but this is their policy
no matter previously how sell yr soul, sell yr youth to a company... once they decided that u're no longer valuable to them, the axe will fall on you
it does happen to a few of my colleagues.. so?

it is good also when she tender her resignation... because she really don't have a future here as i known and as i've seen but i didn't want to hurt her, hence i just be moderate and extra careful with my words when i talk to her, no matter what, she still a young gal
if u know how to handle her, she does her job well and quite obedient.. but after that incidents, she always feel that her job no longer being appreciated, becoming wary and scared that one day, i'll give her the pink envelope

1 morning she feel very tired n motionless, i asked if she's sick?
she told me that she had a nightmare.. said i terminated her service in this company, she wake-up and sweating, can't sleep anymore
she feel so worry n scared... haiz, poor gal

but surprise me on her last working day, she feel touched and cried...
we buy her lunch and the gals make her a card
i wish her well in everything she do...

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================================================================ Tuesday, July 04, 2006

cuP NoOdLe

lately didn't sleep well, day dreaming & building castle in the air as what one of my ex-colleague like to do, haha...
building a glass castle in the air... high risk

and morning @ office, really like a zombie...
ah kok is there but his soul .. guess .. trapped, trap somewhere faraway

this morning althea bring me cup noodles, those funny little seafood cup noodle and interestingly, still got puzzle-like push cart for us to assemble, huh!

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================================================================ Sunday, July 02, 2006

liFe iS lIKe a sOcCEr mAtCh

argh.. isn't it harsh, life sucks!
with all the quality england posseses, it is really not possible for them to lose it, not possible at all.

but what's going on? why?
when u expect a team to win, they draw or lose out
isn't life also the same?
when u expect something that favoring, it'll never-never happen?

i'm so sad n gloomy lately, sob..sob..
why, why...

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Love Shouldn't Hurt

i bought newpaper n 8days, somehow got this pamplet from MCYS
Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports

interesting, yet educating on the title above...

Intimidation <> Love
Sex <> Love
Abuse <> Love
Control <> Care
Love = Respect

What is A Healthy Relationship?

While abuse is about controlling and having power over the other person, love is about caring for and supporting each other. These are indicators of a healthy relationship:
- able to find healthy ways to work through differences and disagreements
- able to make decisions together
- able to trust each other and share honest feelings freely
- feel comfortable, respected and at ease
- feel loved by being listened to and supported
- feel safe and secure
- respect each other's feelings and opinions, even if one may disagree

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